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Michelle Wuesthoff
Beach-loving, coffee-seeking author who passionately pursues emotional & spiritual freedom. Adoptive mom, Jesus follower. Find me on michellewuesthoff.com

I misted up at this news also. I've adopted four kids - none through Bethany, but it was a visit with them that inspired me to adopt in the first place. My kids are Caucasian, African, and Asian (one of them identifies as bisexual) and we have TONS of discrimination-centered conversations in our home. Like, constantly.

I understand the outrage and the bitterness. I've been calling myself an exvangelical lately, even though I met Jesus in the evangelical church. I'll share something I often discuss with my kids:

I tell them that I want them to be strong and confident…


What crying “cancel culture” says about you

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I’ve seen about a dozen memes over the last couple of days expressing outrage that rap lyrics aren’t censored for derogatory content but Dr. Seuss books, Disney creations, and sports mascots have been “forced” to change.

I hate this line of thinking so much.

It’s not an either/or. When you know better, you [should] do better, as Maya Angelou said. The argument, “Yeah, but what about…” is childish and self-centered. When my kids were little and tried to take that route to get out of trouble, I cut the argument off immediately. Wrong is wrong, no matter where on the…


How This Unholy Trinity Came to Define the American Church

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Throughout the past four years, I have struggled to make sense of what’s been going on in my country and faith community, and I’ve consistently come up empty. Sometimes I just throw my hands up in frustration, telling myself that it doesn’t matter whether or not I understand. But there are two reasons I keep trying:

  1. When regularly exposed to insanity, it’s important not to succumb to it, and one way you can protect yourself is to analyze what you see happening versus what you believe and know to be true.
  2. If you don’t want history to repeat itself, it’s…


A letter to exasperated Christians on the verge of calling it quits

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I’ve written a lot lately on the state of Christianity in America, and to be honest, I’ve gotten more discouraged about it with each passing day. I know where I stand on issues and facts and the tenets of my belief system, but my actual practice of faith has felt anything but solid. Sometimes it feels like sand passing through my fingers as I try to sift out what is important and worth holding onto. Yesterday, I got an email from Evan, a young man who read one of my recent articles, and it stirred me to a response that…


Being a Christian in America has a definition of its own

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Until a few years ago, I could never imagine writing an article like this from personal experience.

I was your basic white-evangelical-church-lover and church-goer whose practice of the Christian faith was the most visible and prominent part of who I was. I attended the same church (with my husband and kids) for more than twenty years, and was active in every possible way a person could be over that duration. I led Bible studies and sang on the worship team. I served on the missions committee, went on numerous missions trips, helped plan holiday services, even preached a sermon one…


Wake Up Call

If Not Now, Then When?

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I know we are right smack in the middle of a pandemic crisis, racking up weeks upon weeks being ‘sheltered in place.’ Absolutely everything feels uncertain, and there are so many more questions right now than answers.

For me, the wide-scale ambiguity and confusion are pushing my buttons and I’ve constantly had to battle my anxiety. I’m winning, for what it’s worth, but to be honest, it’s getting kind of exhausting. I like making plans. I like schedules and routines (to a point) and I like…well…control.

Don’t we all? That’s part of what is making this crisis so maddening. There’s…


Focusing on These 5 Things Will Change Everything

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These are dark times we’re living in. Some of us are more than aware of this cold reality, while others need a reminder — a witness — to what they are afraid to acknowledge. Not since WWII has anything overtaken life as we know it on a global scale. You could even argue that this current pandemic has had a farther, deeper reach than a world at war. We all are fighting the same enemy this time, and for better or for worse, we are truly all in this together.

Like all tragedies and crises, these times bring who we…


The Wildly Unpredictable Path of Grief and Healing

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I’m going to try really hard to not make this a stream of consciousness type of thing, but this whole pandemic/quarantine/epic-world-crisis situation is sending my emotions into overdrive. I’m feeling all the feels pretty much every day, but my biggest recurring “feel” has to be grief.

It’s understandable, I guess, considering the times we are in.

So, today, I was out taking a walk, listening to my music — my music being BTS, at the moment. Yes, I’m a grown-up, but my Korean daughter has recently turned me on to K-Pop, and I’m smitten. Anyway…I’m listening to their latest album…


6 surprising and profound things I learned from making this difficult decision

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It’s quiet today.

There’s no shuffle of little feet in the next room, or the sounds of random objects being chewed, dragged, or sniffed. I’m not on high-alert for the signs that will send me on a mad dash outside with treats in my pocket. The dog toys have been picked up and put away. Food and water bowls gone.

I brought him to his new home yesterday, amidst gut-wrenching sobs on the hour-long drive. He had never seen me cry before, and so he sat there, with his head resting on the console, staring at me with worried eyes…

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